Identifying

Being able to understand that someone else hurt you is important if that is the way it seems to you. If you identify a pain as external, you probably shouldn't assume it's coming from inside at first, but instead look at the pain from different angles.

All pain comes from a resistance from inside yourself, true, but there is an appearance of that pain that makes that pain seem real. First there is a wanting inside yourself to see an action of another be hurtful to you. For example, in a relationship when a partner is unfaithful to another partner there is an assumption that the action of the unfaithful partner was to hurt the other. It is likely and very true that we've all experienced pain by someone doing something to us and it is important to show ourselves that that was how it happened then.

Ok so someone hurt you, but what good does it do to continue on with a pain that only incapacitates you? If you are so convinced that continuing to hurt from an event is what will allow you to feel better, then do so. If you feel that you can't release yourself from that pain, there is a resistance that should be dealt with.

The importance of identifying is the idea of going into your past to see what is bothering you now and reconstructing what happened. No matter how you see it just being aware that you don't have to be unhappy about something in your past. Just be aware that you shouldn't be handicapped by it now to do something you very much desire to do.

So with that in mind, lets take a deeper look. If an event that occurred in the past is just your way of looking at that event and there are other ways of seeing how that event actually was, then don't you pretty much create everything? If you create your own perception of life, which is life from your perception, then lets work on creating a perception that we want. If what you desire is conflict and anger, then let it be so, but be aware that you are creating it, not the other. There is no "Other."

On a different note:

FEAR OF CREATION.

This was an interesting thing I ran into the other day. When one realizes that they have created their entire life from the beginning and saw what tragic or undesired events they've gone through, I could imagine there would be some fear of Future similar events.

Here are my words of comfort on this matter. There is no certainty of what WILL happen, and that's a little scary I suppose. I, however find it relieving to know that I can change my life significantly just because the future is open to my decision. There is no repeating cycle of life and so that proves to us that up to this point we've been pretty good to ourselves for what we've wanted to see happen. Even against all the odds which we thought existed we still managed to pull through in the times we thought we needed to.
Now, we are dealing with this new found treasure and that is space. With space we've pushed ourselves away from the continuous normal state of mind and gone beyond ourselves to see what we are capable of. This is scary because in this never-before seen place we may think we will encounter unwanted experiences and because of this we may think we will be in more danger than before.
The only difference between now and before is this:
We have more deliberate command over our lives, and we are aware that we are always safe no matter what. No matter what, even if you die, even if no one seems to love you. Is that what you are going to wake up to tomorrow? Is that what you are going to experience in the next few seconds? Just give your thoughts a break and lose yourself.
Lose yourself in the moment of now and you will find yourself a little bit more.